Self Care is telling people “No”

Did you know that you do yourself an injustice by people pleasing and lacking boundaries?

Whew this took my YEARS to understand. I would do things I did NOT want to do because I wanted to keep the peace. Honestly, all I was truly doing was creating a war within myself. I didn’t want to create or stick to boundaries in fear of how the other party (friends…family …lovers) would react. Meanwhile I am a mess and stuck doing something I didn’t want to do.

I had to go to therapy and my therapist had to ask me how old I was and why was I afraid of “getting in trouble?”

Umm ok Cristine not too much on me now.

She was 100% right though and though it took me about a year to fully embrace it has been the best form of self care that I show myself. I have gotten to a point where if I do no want to I just don’t and I don’t feel the need to explain myself either.

If people get bothered by your boundaries it is just because they want to step all over them.

Learn to stand on business about your self care and be ok with just saying “No”

Now go be Iconic

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