Self Care is telling people “No”

Did you know that you do yourself an injustice by people pleasing and lacking boundaries?

Whew this took my YEARS to understand. I would do things I did NOT want to do because I wanted to keep the peace. Honestly, all I was truly doing was creating a war within myself. I didn’t want to create or stick to boundaries in fear of how the other party (friends…family …lovers) would react. Meanwhile I am a mess and stuck doing something I didn’t want to do.

I had to go to therapy and my therapist had to ask me how old I was and why was I afraid of “getting in trouble?”

Umm ok Cristine not too much on me now.

She was 100% right though and though it took me about a year to fully embrace it has been the best form of self care that I show myself. I have gotten to a point where if I do no want to I just don’t and I don’t feel the need to explain myself either.

If people get bothered by your boundaries it is just because they want to step all over them.

Learn to stand on business about your self care and be ok with just saying “No”

Now go be Iconic

I Love Me

I Love You

Moths?

Weird title… right?

But let me explain.

I was in a dark space come July 2024. My job that I broke my back for suddenly said they were cutting my time there. I couldn’t pay my car insurance so any side hustles I usually did I couldn’t do. My man who wasn’t my man (but don’t let me act like I was single) and I were going through it. All that to say, shit was tough and I was DEPRESSED! Ooo a girl was going through it. Then!! One day the area I was sleeping in was infested with moths! I mean I felt God had sent another plague it was so bad. As long as I’ve been there and around not once had that ever happened. I ended up having to sleep on the couch and for two nights and while everyone slept I cried. I’m not talking about silent slowly running down my face tears. I mean ugly , snotty nose, can’t catch my breath type of crying. I said “God I hear you I’m done!”

If you know me you know I am a spiritual being and everything has a meaning to me. I texted one of my friends and said this has to be a sign. I looked up “Moths spiritual meaning” and I kid you not….Google said “ messengers from the spiritual realm to signal transformation and change.”

I read that said “Ok granny I hear you.” I texted my friend told her what I read and said I am done complaining. I am not going to let others get to me and I am not going to engage in any negativity. I started taking better care of my body , mind and spirit.

YALL I kid you not! A month and a half later I am in a 5 bed 3 bath house with my children in my own CALIFORNIA KING bed! I own a 7 seater SUV and doing a little traveling.

We never know when that “thing” will happen for us. It is so easy getting so caught up in everything “Going wrong” that we refuse to see what was going right. I still had a roof over my head, I had people helping me financially and mentally. My baby was taken care of and surrounded by love. I had to stop dwelling in my “misery” and start being grateful for what I had and TRUST that everything would work out…Guess what?

It did!

I❤️Me

I❤️You

Peace 💕

Welcome to I LOVE ME

It all began many years ago when I was lost and did not have knowledge of who REESE was. I thought I was doing the work but I wasn’t. I was preaching “Love yourself!” All a while l was searching for something outside of me.

I thought I had hit rock bottom before but no lol

It wasn’t until I THOUGHT I had nothing until I realized I had everything and a lot was already within me.

This comeback of truly finding myself was the epiphany I thought I had found years ago. That is why , this comeback is so very personal.

Welcome to “I LOVE ME” or “Ninajipenda” (I love me in Swahili ) . Where I am open and vulnerable. I share some of my healing stories and how I found peace.

I ❤️Me

I ❤️You

Peace 🖤